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  • The Hidden Problem With Disability Resources

    • by Christy
    What no on explains after your child's diagnosis: Navigating systems that decide access to education, services, and funding. Image of C standing at the fence of a playground at school. He has short brown hair and is wearing a gray t-shirt and jeans.

    Access to information, resources, and support for families raising neurodivergent children depends on word of mouth, luck, and who happens to be in the room.

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  • When “Support” Feels Like Punishment: 3 Questions To Ask Before Emailing the IEP Team

    • by Christy
    Text on graphic reads: When Punishment is Disguised as Support - you are not overreacting. What to ask before requesting an IEP meeting for your neurodivergent child

    If your neurodivergent child is being removed from peers in the name of “support,” this is how to evaluate the IEP and decide whether it’s time to call a meeting.

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  • Deciding What Is Urgent When Raising A Neurodivergent Child

    • by Christy
    On the left is the Experiential Life Logo, followed by: Caught between making every decision... or... none - because there are too many when you're raising a neurodivergent kid. On the right is an image of Christy (Founder and CEO of Experiential Life) wearing a blue denim button down shirt and her shortish brown hair hanging over her shoulders. She is talking with the camera catching her mid-sentence. Her hands are raised in front of her as if emphasizing a thought.

    From IEPs to medical referrals, decision fatigue is constant. How parents of neurodivergent kids can prioritize without burnout.

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  • When IEP Progress Leads to Reduced Support: What Families Need to Know

    • by Christy
    An autistic 10 year old stands outside with red Mario hat, orange coat, and Toy Story Backpack. He is surrounded by a wooden path and trees with no leaves. The text reads: Progress is not a green light to reduce IEP support for your neurodivergent child.

    The IEP team saw progress, and pulled back dedicated 1:1 support.
    Honestly – it felt like a moment to celebrate.
    Until it wasn’t…
    Because he didn’t have someone dedicated to supporting him…
    When he pulled the fire alarm to get out of an assembly he didn’t want to go to.

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  • When Survival As A Caregiver Relies On Broken Systems

    • by Christy
    To the right is an image of Christy, with long brown hair, a salmon colored sweater, and black pants kneeling next to her 4 year old autistic son, who is wearing a black hoodie, jeans, and has short black hair. They are standing outside on a paved trail, in the woods, with fallen leaves surrounding them. Text reads: When Survival As a Caregiver Means Relying On Broken Systems.

    Planning for next week feels impossible.
    Planning for adulthood? Out of reach.

    If that sounds like you… lean in for a second.

    You’re doing great.
    You’re not failing your child.
    You’re not behind – you’re overloaded.

    Parenting is hard. Parenting a neurodivergent child in a changing, underfunded, politically volatile system is harder.

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  • What We Gave Up to Feel Safe: Grieving the Loss of Family Tradition

    • by Christy
    What We Gave Up to Feel Safe: Grieving the Loss of Family Traditions While Raising A Neurodivergent Child. To the right is an image of C, my autistic teen, walking over a wooden bridge in the woods. He is wearing a bright blue sweat outfit and is treading across the wooden planks very carefully.

    Every year, as the holiday season kicks off, I find myself grieving the loss of family and friends – not because they’ve passed away – but because our relationship did.

    It’s a particular kind of grief – the kind that doesn’t come with casseroles and sympathy cards.

    It’s the ache of relationships changed, not by death, but by the boundaries we had to draw to protect our child.

    And it’s especially loud this time of year.

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  • Open Letter to the Mom Running on Peppermint Mocha Lattes and Scotch Tape

    • by Christy

    You can love your child fiercely
    and still feel overwhelmed by the reality of the holiday season with a neurodivergent kid.

    Let’s just call that what it is:
    Being a mom, who makes all the plans, buys all the gifts, and creates all the magic.

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  • How to Talk About Sex With Your Neurodivergent Child

    • by Christy
    Puberty, hormones, and curiosity happen for every child... regardless of neurotype. To the right is a group of middle school aged children of different ethnicities and race, standing in front of lockers. It looks as if they are joking with one another between classes.

    Wondering how to talk to your autistic or neurodivergent child about sex, consent, and puberty – without making it weird? This honest guide shares real-life scripts, inclusive tools, and a replay of our expert-led conversation inside the Experiential Life App.

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  • Community In Action: How To Help Your Immigrant Neighbors

    • by Christy
    Caption reads, "What Happens When Systems Fail Our Most Vulnerable Families" - to the left is a black and white image of a young boy with big brown eyes. He is in slight profile and he looks both serious and worried.

    Learn how communities can protect and support immigrant families raising neurodivergent children when systems fail them.

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  • Simple Tips That Will Help Your Neurodivergent Child Enjoy Family Events

    • by Christy
    On the left side, the Experiential Life logo—a round icon with coral, teal, and navy waves—appears above black text that reads: “CRACKING THE CODE TO FAMILY EVENTS. 16 years in – and yes, hosting parties can be enjoyable again. 5 simple tips to help your autistic child feel safe, seen, and prepared.” At the bottom is the website URL: www.Experiential-Life.com. On the right side of the image is a photo of A, my oldest son, in the middle is C, my autistic son, smiling with his arms outstretched, and on the right is O, my middle son. Behind them is a colorful birthday banner with streamers and balloons hanging from it.

    It’s hard to feel disconnected from family and friends – and know that big, loud, crowded events can be a sensory nightmare for our neurodivergent kids.

    It’s also hard to explain to family and friends why we parent the way we do – it is a low-demand and much softer approach to parenting.

    But meltdowns and tears – plus missing our family and friends – led us to this approach.

    If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

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Navigating Care: Essential Questions to Ask Every New Provider

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    If your neurodivergent child grew 2 inches in the If your neurodivergent child grew 2 inches in the last year, hit save… this post is for you.

Because one minute you are still able to hold your child on your hip…

And then you blinked, and they grew 2 inches. 

You blinked again, and their feet don’t swing back and forth when they sit in a chair. 

Suddenly their baby face is transforming into a version of their future self. 

Future planning feels like a tomorrow problem - especially when you are just trying to get through the day…

But the future is sneaky… It shows up, ready or not. 

That’s why we dedicated March to future planning. 

Up first we have Eric Jorgensen on March 12th at 12pm EST. He’s a future planning expert and father to an adult son with developmental disabilities.

He’ll share his advice to help you prepare for the future - and answer your questions live in a casual, no-stress conversation.

If future planning still feels like a “future you” problem…
Comment “Onward” and I’ll send you the details.
    There comes a point when your neurodivergent child There comes a point when your neurodivergent child is in 3rd grade that things feel, dare I say… easier.

For us it looked like this:

➡️ Same team (mostly) in the same school for a few years.

➡️ IEP meetings didn’t feel quite as intimidating anymore because I finally understood more about IDEA and how the process works.

➡️ C was older, and I understood his support needs better.

We had a routine that worked for everyone.

3rd grade hits and you finally start to feel like life has a rhythm.

You feel like you’re in a flow.

And then… things shift.

Soon you are facing middle school, pre-teen years, and hormones…

And then the freight train starts rolling.

Middle school to high school -

And transition and future planning are staring you down…

You blink and your child is adult sized.

I wish - when 3rd grade brought the relief I desperately needed, I took the time to think ahead. 

Do you agree - is 3rd grade the point where things started to feel easier, or is your experience different?

Tell me below ⬇️
    If your neurodivergent child is between 12 and 16, If your neurodivergent child is between 12 and 16, save this and share with a friend…

Because it comes way faster than you expect.
Everyone talks about “future planning.”

But the thing about planning for the future is that it’s not right now - and the urgency to plan is diminished simply because of what we call it. 

Add to that the overwhelm of thinking about what our children need for the future, when we are still trying to secure what they need right now…
It’s a lot. 

That’s why I tell families it’s better to learn this early - instead of scrambling to piece it together later. 

Is there anything you would add to the list that I missed? Tell me below.

And if future planning feels overwhelming, we’re hosting a free and live conversation on March 12th at 12pm EST. 

Comment “Onward” and I will DM the details.
    The hot flashes, hormone surges, and unpredictable The hot flashes, hormone surges, and unpredictable periods are here…

And I am actively parenting an autistic teen with hormone surges and a strong need to be independent…

And we are quite a pair with our big feelings, “I got this” attitude, and constant apologies for taking it out on each other. 

I’ve been testing a few strategies to help us both through this stage of life - here 3 things that are working right now:

1. I call “mommy time outs.” I’ve always had big feelings and I wear them on my sleeve, but it’s gotten worse with perimenopause. 

So when I feel the adrenaline surge, and my mouth open to say something I can’t take back - I’ve trained myself to call:

“Mommy Time Out!” and I hide in my bedroom, lights off and door closed for 90 seconds to regulate. 

2. Naps… We’ve been taking afternoon naps and it’s been the reset we both need. 

3. C wants to make his own decisions and honestly… what 17 year old doesn’t push back against their parents, or roll their eyes when mom says they can’t do something. 

So I am letting him make decisions - with a few rules. 

Safety first. If it’s not safe, it’s a “no” and we talk about it.

The decision can’t impede on someone else’s choice - so we aren’t driving to Five Below at 7pm because that decision requires me to drive. I have a choice to go or not go. 

It’s not easy - but we’re figuring it out.

Tell me below ⬇️ 

Do you have other tips for me to try?
    A day in the life of a mom-turned-advocate who sho A day in the life of a mom-turned-advocate who showed up to testify.

It was a day y’all.

Video clips:

1: walking into my office with sweatpants, a hoodie, my hair in a ponytail, and coffee in my hand.

2. Responding to emails on my laptop, at my desk, with my big old cup of coffee front and center.

3. Brushing my teeth in my blue towel, my hair wrapped up in a pastel hair towel.

4. Dressed in a tan blazer, white blouse, brown hair with gray glitter streaks, curled and bouncy.

5. Walking through a brick paved walkway in downtown Annapolis. The sky is bright blue and the Maryland flags are waving in the wind.

6. My bright red pants and black chucks walking on the brick sidewalk to the Senate building.

7. A portion of my testimony. I sit in the middle of the desk with two women beside me, and the microphone and my notes in front of me.

8. Quick selfie outside of the hearing room, following my testimony. My face is front and center and I gave a quick smile.

9. My red pants and black chucks running down the marble staircase. Behind me (where you can’t see) are two children running in the hallways happy and laughing.

10. The victory walk, my full body comes into the frame, red pants, white blouse, tan blazer, hair bouncing, and a little hair flip as I approach the camera. I am waking outside on the brick paved path, with the bright blue sky and Maryland flags waving in the wind.
    There are way more questions than answers in the “ There are way more questions than answers in the “Great Healthcare Plan” - so everything I am saying is speculation.

But the attacks on Medicaid are ongoing - just look at what “Dr. Oz” is doing to Minnesotans.

States are trying to “opt out” of community integration.

And the cost of caring for disabled people is higher - the cost of being disabled is higher. 

We don’t know how much money Trump proposes to “give” to the American people - but here’s what I know…

We had private health insurance the year C got diagnosed, and we still spent $30,000 out of pocket. 

We’ve had high deductible health plans, and paying the bills to meet our deductible was gruelling - and then we still had to pay for co-pays, vision, dentist, and prescriptions out of pocket. 

We have AMAZING health insurance now - and experienced several hospital stays and operations - and still paid thousands in out of pocket expenses to meet our co-insurance costs.

The healthcare system is broken. 

The privatized insurance company is breaking us. 

But paying people the bare minimum and taking people out of the insurance pools won’t reduce the cost of care. 

If we want our tax dollars to lower the cost of healthcare - we should let our tax dollars lower the cost of healthcare for all - we do that with universal healthcare - just like every other “wealthy and industrialized nation.”

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